Friday, February 10, 2012

True Love

When out to dinner the other night my wife mentions I need to find my "true love" because she isn't it. It caught me off guard. I thought things were going great. I have sucked in the physical part of the marriage big time lately. It really bothers her that I am not attracted to her physically. I already knew this. Maybe I am more content in the marriage than she will ever be. She also said she can never leave until I find a "true love" because she would worry too much about me. sigh  I don't deserve her. She is too good to me. I feel bad I can't give her all she needs. 

6 comments:

Beck said...

Seems like she is your "true love", you just don't know it.

There is more to "true love" than physical.

Bror said...

According to her, I can't be her "true love" because of the physical part. It's not possible.

Not Alone said...

My wife has never that. My wife is my "true love". But I guess is my wife, or yours, your complete love.

I guess that is what I struggle with. I feel like I am settling for my true love. The first one I found, and that I maybe could have the complete package. I continue to think I will stay just like this, but find that I still need the physical part of love from somewhere else.

I don't know the answer, but keep loving her, it sounds like she deserves it.

Crisco said...

My heart bleeds for you. Last night, my wife called our relationship "lopsided." I thought it was a little better than that. What do you do when you give it your best and that is not enough for either of you?

Andy said...

Late to the party, but want to comment. The physical, or lack thereof, is a big deal to my wife. I wish it didn't hurt her so badly. Sometimes it's really really good, but sometimes there is a long hiatus. I just can't seem to be there 100 percent of the time. I guess that's why it's called a mixed orientation marriage, sometimes the orientation just doesn't mix.

Anonymous said...

In all sincerity, with the different comments saying such similar things how do you or the other commentors plan on resolving the inequities of your relationships. Will this lack of physical intimacy undermine your marriages? If your spouses are not getting what they need from the marriages do you have a responsibility to start providing it to them or a responsibility to set them free? At what point does it go from a marriage to a marriage to a marriage of convenience where one spouse is being used? I tried to marry but could not follow through, something inside told me I would not be able to make it work for the long haul. At times I have wondered if not marrying was the right choice and I've always wondered what it would have been like to have tried...or had more faith...but in the end I guess I made the only choice I could live with at the time.